My Healthy Love

The Band-Aid Bond

October 31, 2007 on 12:43 pm | In Dr Grace's Book Reviews |

Being in love, doesn’t mean being in pain!  This book will save you from heartache and pain.  It is no secret that there is a growing epidemic of thousands of women who have a lot of healing and self-mending to do because of the emotional wear-and-tear caused by what I call band-aid bonding.   Band-Aid Bonding occurs when a woman is in a broken, unstable, unhealthy relationship, where she’s the emotional adhesive strip trying to hold it together by putting aside her own emotional scars, while covering up or tending to her mate’s toxic wounds.  Both my mother and aunt were murdered by their toxic mates from abusive relationships; therefore, I am on a serious mission through this book to get every woman out of all forms of detrimental and unhealthy relationships.  In a non-judgmental, but firm and loving manner, The Band-Aid Bond will help you to take a deep and thorough look at your own personal selection process and responsibilities for removing any unhealthy subconscious cover-up or denial in order to heal the deep-seated or hidden emotional wounds.  In this powerful relationship guide, which is organized in three profound healing sections with 14 chapters, I give both single and married women the necessary information and encouragement to: Discover the Signs, Uncover the Causes, and Recover from the Syndrome of an unhealthy relationship.   The Band-Aid Bond is endorsed by many of today’s leading psychologists, pastors, and marriage therapists.  An award-winning bestseller since 2004, this is not just a book, it’s a healing program. The following are three sample chapters in this life-changing book:  

Chapter #2: Mistaken Identity

Every week I receive numerous emails and letters from women who confide that they’re experiencing pain caused by the shock of realizing that their husbands or lovers aren’t who they thought they were initially involved with.  In this chapter, we will explore the dilemma of women who have been awakened to what’s described as “familiar strangers” in their beds and their lives.  You are shown specific behavioral patterns of dishonest, emotionally-unavailable, chameleon-like mates.  This will help you to discern and understand the hidden emotions and mindset of calculating tricksters.  If you are a single woman, you will be privy to early warning signals that will help you recognize the cunning tactics of the hit-n-run and bait-n-switch players before you get hooked.  If you are already married or involved in a relationship, you’ll benefit greatly from the necessary tools to help you decide what’s in your best interest and whether it will be worthwhile to carry on or best to move on.

Chapter #5: Clinging to a Three-Way Love Affair

This chapter investigates a taboo subject that too many relationship books erroneously neglect.  While Chapter 4 explore wives and steady girlfriends who were partially or fully neglected by mates, this one details mistresses or “outside women” who agonize over being involved with partially-available men.  Although there are many women who purposely hunt for married men and others who claim that by some act of fate, they just always “happen” to be entangled with somebody else’s mate, there are actually some cases of women who honestly did not find out that they were involved with a cheater during the initial few months of dating.  I believe that there are always clues– even though some are very subtle and hard to detect.  When a woman ignores her intuition, the still small voice within, and is plunged into the depth of infatuation, she becomes blinded by the possibilities of escalating love, and does not thoroughly check the man out before letting him deeper and deeper into her heart.  Then, by the time the fraudulent beau is exposed, or confesses that he is already married or involved, she has already fallen in love with him and deeply entrenched in a no-win unhealthy relationship situation.  This is a subject that needs to be dealt with in order to unravel the real reasons why a woman would have an affair with a married or already-involved man.  I fully analyze two distinct experiences:
1) Type A- The woman who was initially tricked because of mistaken trust.
2) Type B - The woman who willfully entered a three-way affair with the hopes of becoming the exclusive lover. 

Chapter #6: When He’s Dangerously Elusive and Physically Abusive

It is estimate that every 9 seconds a woman is battered in the United States.  “A woman is more likely to be assaulted, injured, raped, or killed by a male partner that any other assailant.  Wife-beating results in more injuries that require medical treatment than rape, auto accidents, and muggings.  Abusive men who kill their partners serve an average of [only] two-to-six year prison terms.”  Does this read like an insert found in the scripted lines of a shocking horror movie?  Unfortunately, these are very true and appalling statistics that are reported by reliable sources, such as The Department of Justice and National Clearinghouse for the Defense of Battered Women.  This chapter identifies obstacles that prevent women from leaving abusive unhealthy relationships and the excuses batterers use to justify their behavior.  It also shows you many of the power-and-control methods men use to overpower women, and provides you with effective strategies to help you or a friend to get out safely.  Covered in detail are:
*The Six Different Abuses The Control Addict Uses
*The Six Manipulative Tactics That Abusers Practice
*12 Safety Tips That Can Help To Save Your Life
*10 Helpful Hints Which Can Save A Loved One’s Life

Throughout the 14 chapters, The Band-Aid Bond is quilted with well-mapped out effective healing exercises and specific anecdotes to help you to redefine who you are, decide who you will allow to take up space in your life, and discover how to heal any lingering heartache, so that you can finally start to enjoy a wholesome, productive life and love.  And this is exactly what you deserve to have, isn’t it?